I mentioned a few weeks ago that my daughter Julie and her husband David are in the process of adopting a baby. They already have five children—three by birth and two more by adoption. With such a large family already, some might wonder why they would want to go through all the expense and effort to adopt again. Their only answer would be that this is the calling they believe the Lord has given them. I would add that He has well-equipped them for this calling with all the love, patience, wisdom, acceptance and strength that they will need to raise these children for Him.
They are in the very early stages of this new adoption. This week they have been writing a profile letter to introduce themselves to prospective birth mothers and pulling together a collage of photos to include with the letter. Julie was concerned at first that with all the mandatory things they were supposed to include in this one page letter, that they would not be able to convey the essence of who they are and what family life is like in their home. Somehow they managed to do it, though, and they wrote a beautiful letter. I cannot imagine anyone reading it and not being moved by the tender, compassionate hearts of this wonderful couple.
The way I understand it, the agency goes to a birth mother with two profile packages in hand. After looking them over, the mother may choose one of them, or she may ask to look at two more. It is a small agency and they do not work with more than fifteen sets of adoptive parents at a time. They have told Julie and David that, since they do not have a preference as to gender or ethnicity, and do not have a problem accepting a baby with “issues,” it probably will not be long before they are matched with a birth mother. We are praying that the Lord will open or close doors according to His will and that they will receive exactly the baby He intends for them.
Of course, as humans, we hope as a birth mother reads their profile letter that she will choose them. But what if the first girl to whom they hand that letter is not the right girl? What if it is the seventh or eighth girl—a year from now? The temptation is to jump up and down like little kids waving our hands wildly in the air and shouting “Pick me! Pick me!” At least that is the temptation for me, as their mother. Julie and David are wiser than that. They’ve already taken hands off the control of which sex, what ethnicity and even whether or not they will accept a baby with handicaps, giving God control over such things.
It is a difficult thing for some people to let go and let God take control. They wonder, “What if God’s will is not my will?” They are afraid to pray, “Not my will, but thine, Lord.” What if He messes up my plans? Why do I have to wait so long? Why doesn’t He answer? This is where trust comes in—trusting God that He is trustworthy! This is where faith comes in—having faith that He is faithful. Believing that God wants the best for us.
Here are a few thoughts on the will of God and why we need to let go and give Him control:
According to Ephesians 5:17, we are wise when we choose God’s will above our own. “Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.” Following the will of God means we let Him lead and guide.
He plans to prosper us. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
We cannot begin to imagine how much better and higher His will for us is than our own. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8-9)
God’s will teaches us. The apostle Paul learned about God’s grace and power when he gave in to God’s will. He said in II Corinthians 12:8-9, “Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
Giving God control brings peace to our lives. “Be anxious for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)
When we let go and let God, we see His love for us. I Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you.” His will is love.
He is God. Who are we to think we know better what is right for us than our Creator and our Lord? Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!” Be still, let go and let God have control!